The Nice Guy Syndrome
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The nice guy syndrome is something that was championed by the book "No more Mr Nice guy" By Dr Robert Glover. If you're not aware of what it is, it's a phenomenon of men (although it also applies across the genders with people pleasing) who embody the following traits (taken from the book)
Nice guys are givers
Nice guys fix and caretake
Nice guys seek approval from others
Nice guys avoid conflict
Nice guys believe they must hide their perceived flaws and mistakes
Nice guys seek the right way to do things
Nice guys repress their feelings
Nice guys often try to be different from their fathers
Nice guys are often more comfortable relating to women than men
Nice guys have difficulty making their needs a priority
Nice guys often make their partner their emotional centre
nice guys are dishonest
nice guys are secretive
nice guys are compartmentalised
nice guys are manipulative
nice guys are controlling
nice guys give to get
nice guys are passive aggressive
nice guys are full of rage
nice guys are addictive
nice guys have difficulty setting boundaries
nice guys are frequently isolated